In the Words of Destiny's Child, "It's Just Emotions Taking Me Over!"
- Javon A. Frazier
- May 1
- 4 min read
—A Womb Keeper’s Guide to Sacred Connection
Let’s begin here…
You're 16.
You’ve just gotten into the biggest argument with the love of your life—your first love.Your chest is heavy. Your throat tightens. You can't find the words to explain the storm inside you, but you feel it deep.
So you curl up in your bed, face buried in your pillow, arms wrapped around it like it’s the only thing holding you together. You turn on the radio, and “Emotion” by Destiny’s Child starts playing.The words hit like waves—every line echoing your heartbreak.
Your mom knocks gently, opens the door, and softly says, “Dinner’s ready.”
But how could you eat?
Your heart is splintered into a thousand unspoken pieces.
Everything feels like it’s crashing down.
No one understands.
Not even you.
So you do the only thing you can do—you close your eyes and cry.
Not just from sadness.
But from the weight of feeling so much with nowhere to put it.
That moment?
It stays with you.
It becomes the blueprint for how you relate to others and yourself.
And if no one teaches you how to understand and move through emotions, you carry that 16-year-old heartbreak into your grown-woman relationships.
But emotional intelligence changes that.
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the sacred art of recognizing, understanding, and responding to emotions with awareness and grace. It's not about perfection. It’s about presence. It’s the work of the Womb Keeper—learning to sit with your emotions and respond from your power, not your pain.
Whether you're navigating intimacy, sisterhood, family, or your own healing, here are five sacred ways to develop emotional intelligence in your relationships:
1. Cultivate Self-Awareness
“You can’t alchemize what you don’t acknowledge.”
Start with the self. Emotional intelligence begins in the body. Pay attention to how you feel in different situations—especially the uncomfortable ones. Is that tension in your chest frustration? Is that tightness in your jaw unspoken grief?
Try this:
Sit quietly for 3 minutes daily and ask: “What am I feeling? Where do I feel it in my body?”
Keep a soft journal or voice note to explore patterns and triggers.
Allow your womb to speak—she often holds the emotions we haven’t made space for.
2. Practice Self-Regulation
“Your power lies in the pause.”
Emotional maturity doesn’t mean suppressing your emotions—it means learning how to respond instead of react. When your nervous system is regulated, your presence becomes medicine.
Tools for self-regulation:
Take 3 deep breaths before responding in conflict.
Ground with your senses: touch a texture, sip warm tea, feel your feet on the floor.
Repeat a mantra like “I am safe to feel and choose again.”
3. Lead With Empathy
“Empathy is sacred listening without needing to fix.”
Empathy allows you to hold space for others without absorbing their emotions or making it about you. It’s a holy skill—especially in sacred partnerships, womb circles, and family dynamics.
Try this:
Instead of “What’s wrong?”, ask “How are you feeling in your body right now?”
Reflect back what someone shares: “It sounds like you’re feeling unseen—did I get that right?”
Resist the urge to defend or correct. Be with. Just be.
4. Communicate With Consciousness
“Your words are spells. Speak them with care.”
Conscious communication is rooted in truth, not tone-policing or over-explaining. It’s about sharing your experience while honoring the other’s humanity.
Use “I” statements:
“I felt hurt when I didn’t feel considered in that moment.”
“I desire more softness between us, and I’m willing to learn how to offer it too.”
Be clear, but kind. Be honest, but loving. Your womb will guide your voice.
5. Make Room for Repair
“Love isn’t about never rupturing—it’s about learning to repair with grace.”
We will all get it wrong sometimes. What matters most is how we show up after the rupture. Emotional intelligence helps us rebuild trust through accountability and softness.
Ways to repair:
“I see how I hurt you, and I’m so sorry. That wasn’t my intention, but I honor your experience.”
Offer a hug, a warm drink, or an intentional check-in. Repair lives in presence, not perfection.
Make space for forgiveness—but don’t force it. Let it bloom in divine timing.
The Pillar of Sacred Connection
At Hidden Jewel Wellness Boutique, Sacred Connection is one of the core pillars of Womb Wellness. It’s the reminder that we heal not only in solitude, but in community, in relationship, and in reflection with one another. This work isn’t about becoming emotionally perfect. It’s about becoming emotionally present within ourselves and with the people we love.
In The Advocate, our sacred offering for women on the path of embodied healing and leadership, we dive deep into this pillar—unpacking what it means to show up vulnerably, powerfully, and lovingly in relationships of all kinds. If this post resonates, it’s your invitation to explore that next level of emotional clarity and connection.
Click here to learn more about The Advocate → https://www.hiddenjewelboutique.com/theadvocate
Sacred Practice: Emotional Check-In Ritual
Once a week, create space for an emotional check-in with yourself or a loved one:
Light a candle or burn incense.
Sit heart-to-heart or journal privately.
Ask:
What am I feeling most today?
What does my body need?
What do I desire to release or express?
Close with gratitude or a prayer of emotional sovereignty.
Emotional intelligence is not a destination.
It’s a rhythm
a return
a sacred dance between your inner world and the outer one.
The more you honor your emotions with compassion, the more you create space for deeper love, more peace, and more aligned relationships.
You don’t have to do it all at once. Just start with breath. With awareness. With a willingness to feel and stay present.
This is the sacred work of the Womb Keeper.
✨ Ready to explore your emotional body and relationship patterns deeper? Join our next round of The Advocate or schedule a 1:1 Womb Wellness Session with me. Your emotional intelligence is a sacred tool—let’s sharpen it, together.
With softness and sovereignty,
Javon Frazier
Founder, Hidden Jewel Wellness Boutique
@hiddenjewelboutiq | @javonafrazier
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